We Never Argue??

As a child, my parents seemed to always argue. I found it both confusing and fatiguing so I promised myself that I would never, ever argue. My first real girlfriend must have had the same experience because we promised that we would never, ever have any arguments with each other.

Well, several girlfriends and uncountable arguments later I finally came to realize that disagreements are a natural part of relationships. Different people, with different experiences and different expectations will likely have different opinions on how things ought to be.

If the involved parties are fortunate, understanding and growth will likely occur in the relationship making it better and stronger. I had become comfortable with this conclusion.

Until recently, when I heard a married woman of 20 years state that she and her husband never argue and have never had an arguments with each other. I was stunned.

Do you save the Best for Last

As a kid, my mother worked hard to provide for me and my two sisters. Everything was shared and nothing was to be wasted. It was a way of lief that was normal for us and we did well by it.

This lifestyle also included our meals. And this is where a problem occurred. Our basic meals included (in order of my priorities) meat, starch and vegetables. My sisters and I were perfectly OK with the meat and starch (rice or potatoes) but, the vegetables just had to go. 

Fortunately, we had a dog that we could share the vegetables with. The dog was always near the dinner table and thoroughly appreciated anything we provided.

Initially we would slowly work through the meat and potatoes part of dinner, expecting to find an opening to dump the vegetables off to the dog.

Are you looking to break up?

Have you ever found yourself in a relationship where the question is raised, 'are you looking to break up?' I admit that I may have a biased viewpoint, being a male and all, So perhaps the ladies can help me understand this issue from a different perspective.

I'm in a relationship of several months and we are having a conversation (disagreement might be too strong a word). Our opinions differed. She expressed her viewpoints and I expressed mine. 

This following scenario did occur in a few of my relationships.