We Never Argue??

As a child, my parents seemed to always argue. I found it both confusing and fatiguing so I promised myself that I would never, ever argue. My first real girlfriend must have had the same experience because we promised that we would never, ever have any arguments with each other.

Well, several girlfriends and uncountable arguments later I finally came to realize that disagreements are a natural part of relationships. Different people, with different experiences and different expectations will likely have different opinions on how things ought to be.

If the involved parties are fortunate, understanding and growth will likely occur in the relationship making it better and stronger. I had become comfortable with this conclusion.

Until recently, when I heard a married woman of 20 years state that she and her husband never argue and have never had an arguments with each other. I was stunned.

Did this mean that my accommodation of arguments  has been absolutely wrong all these years or, that she and her husband has found some secret magical formula of co-existence or, they simply don't communicate — living their combined lives separately?

I didn't respond to her statement because I wasn't certain if I was prepared for her answer. Now, however, I am curious and welcome any comments on this subject.

Is it reasonable to hope for a meaningful relationship (or perhaps any relationship) without any arguments? Do you really want a piece of this? I do, and look forward to your comments.