You make me nervous because you don't try to control me

Has anyone ever told you this? Have you ever said this to anyone?

I suspect many of us eventually look for a meaningful relationship with that special person. We look for a true partner who will share our moments of joy and watch our backs in times of need. Our fear may be that this person may try to control us, to change us, to hurt us.

So we've dumped that last stupid person who had control issues, and have set out searching for a fresh partner who truly understands the need and value of a sharing, committed relationship. Certainly we are already prepared to share a meaningful and lasting life with someone. We just have to find the right person who feels the same way.

A girlfriend once told me that I made her nervous because I didn't try to control her. I responded by saying that I was not aware of anything I said or did, either directly or indirectly, that in any way tried to control her. She agreed with me and stated that was what made her so nervous.

Do you have a 'private' name?

In our early life, especially in mixed company, we learn that certain things are best left unsaid in public. Not to be silenced, we often create phrases that are a substitute for what we actually mean to say but can't publicly state. 

For example, we rarely say we we are going to use the the toilet room. Instead, we substitute a word or phrase that makes the action seem more polite. We are going to the ladies room, or the powder room.

I think the same discretion holds true for talking about our intimate body parts. We are comfortable announcing that, after eating, our stomach feels stuffed but are not so quick to openly declare that we have a hungry 'private' part.

Maybe it's not your shoes that are on backwards, but your feet that are on backwards.

Recently I was at a family gathering and we were about to got out to have dinner. My 4 year old niece had just placed her shoes on and tied them up. Her mother said, 'your shoes are on backwards'.

I observed my niece looking in puzzlement at her shoes trying to figure out the mistake (I certainly recall my many moments at her age thinking how do I tell the difference about my shoes). I remarked to my niece that, 'perhaps her shoes are on correctly but it's her feet that are on backwards'. She was actually able to understand the question with a laugh.

As an adult, I find that people and events will still challenge me regarding what's on backwards. It is my shoes or my feet?

Are you a Masher?

Experts say there's always a reason behind human behavior. I find myself often clueless to determine any reasoning behind some of the things I observe. 

Eating can be a very personal experience and it's intriguing to observe the many styles we display. For those of us using forks and knives during our meal, some will cut their foods in small portions and eat each item separately. Others will stab at multiple food items prior to placing the all the items into their mouth at the same time. 

I've seen eaters make sure that they separate the food items into discrete territorial spots on their plates while others will aggressively mash their food multiple, multiple times prior to ingesting. Some diners will bend their head forward to meet the food half-way while others bring their forked food all the way up to their mouth.

I suspect that most of us never think (including me) about how we eat our meal and I wonder how much of ourselves are reflected by our eating? What eating styles have you seen that either makes total sense or total nonsense to you?

Do you really want a piece of this? Would love to hear your thoughts.

I think I might be a voyeur

Does your dance style reveal your sensuality?

At most social events, when the band starts playing and everybody gets up to dance, I sit down to watch. The music is good, the dancers are in rhythm and I am thoroughly enjoying the energy displayed.

Am I broken in?

During my BM (before marriage) days, a girlfriend and I were going through a potential-breakup moment. We probably both shared some blame but I don't recall who/what/why?

What I do remember, as we discussed reconciliation, was a comment she made regarding the value of staying together. She stated that she didn't want to deal with the aggravation of having to break someone else in.

If you Really Loved Me, then…

Do you ever find yourself in a love contest with your mate?

A girlfriend once asked me to do something for her. I don't recall what it was but I do remember saying that I really didn't want to, with a sense that the request would have been very inconvenient to me.

She then said, 'if you really loved me (her) then you'd do this for me (her). My immediate reply was, lets not get into a who-loves-who-the-most contest.