Have you ever found yourself in a relationship where the question is raised, 'are you looking to break up?' I admit that I may have a biased viewpoint, being a male and all, So perhaps the ladies can help me understand this issue from a different perspective.
I'm in a relationship of several months and we are having a conversation (disagreement might be too strong a word). Our opinions differed. She expressed her viewpoints and I expressed mine.
This following scenario did occur in a few of my relationships.
The next thing I hear from her is 'are you looking to break up…is this what you're trying to do, is to break up?' This statement did stop me, cold turkey. I looked at her and said breaking up was not on the table of this talk and I preferred to stay focused on our disagreement, hopefully reaching an understanding.
However, despite my objections, this one girl kept insisting on asking the same question, 'am I looking to break up?' I finally said, 'yes, I want to break up.'
She asked if I was serious. I responded with, 'you keep asking the same question so yes, I'm serious about wanting to break up' Her next statement was, 'you're (I'm) sick.'
Why was she insisting on the same question, over my objections. Then when I shift to her position, I'm the sick one. Was she looking to win the argument through the intimidation of an ended relationship or, was she expressing her insecurity over our relationship and looking for reaffirmation from me? Or, was it something else?
Did I really want a piece of this? Your thoughts.
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