I have a female friend that readily admits that she does not like cooking. No surprise that she fell head-over-heels for a man who not only cooked fantastic meals but also enjoyed the cooking. Additionally, he was clean, had a good job and actually listened to her opinions.
She would often boast to me about the great evenings of fine food and warm conversation they shared. He would always decline her offers to help in the kitchen.
Eventually he proposed to marry her and she gave a hearty ‘yes’. They had a great marriage ceremony and a memorable honeymoon. On the first day back to their home my friend discovered that her husband’s mother had cooked ALL of his meals for their dates.
The mother-in-law would prepare and package the meals, and provide re-heating instructions. Her husband had never cooked a day in his life and certainly was not about to start now.
BIG disappointment.
It was clear that the now-husband wanted to impress my friend during their courtship. I imagine that she should be flattered. However, did he do a disservice not only to her but also to their relationship?
It is assumed that new partners are on their best behavior as we open doors, laugh at all the jokes and, might even promise that we will never have an argument. Does our quest for the ideal mate lead us to huge disappointments down the road?
Is it fair to make best impressions for the worst reasons or should we be more honest and open about our value and baggage? Do you really want a piece of this?
Your thoughts?
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